Go figuire

[sgtgm5]

Today i Went to give a bid on a over grown Yard that was up to three feet. Well when i pulled up I first said no way am I doing this for change so gave my bid and they said no. Well me and the son got to talking that his mother had cancer and was bed ridden and she was in bad shape. So, then after talking i went to my truck and the neighbors asked if i was mowing the yard.
I responded with saying no and i was going to my truck to go, well i took a look at the yard and then remembered the story the son talked about. Well, i do have a big heart so i went to the door and told them that I would like to cut the front of the yard. he asked me how much, i said , this is on me. So I cut the yard and did a very good job. Well the mother wanted to meet me, and i go in and shes in the bed smoking, five packs a day, thats why she has cancer.
Well I still feel great about doing what i did but then i ask myself, Would have i did that knowing that her cancer was brought on by herself. I feel kinda bad but I wonder cause i was thinking that this was none of her doing........... I dont know but i feel that this experiance ruined the next who is in need ... Any input, thanks, Gabe

[Ajays]

Seems like you care more about the mother than her son does... Why didn't he mow the yard? Some people!

[sgtgm5]

Get this, she has two sons and when i took a look at there mower one of the sons was in the garage smoking pot with his friends, now i dont know these people and i did say something to the effect that if you werent smoking pot you could have been helping your brother and i cut the yard. The older son i was talking with came out and took my weed whacker and help out,,, It was tall. anyhow, i did and she was very nice and polite

[leprechaun_50]

You did a good deed for someone who needed a hand.you should feel good about it.:angel:

[awm]

the fact she was smoking just means shes human and subject to faults as the rest of us are. the price for some,just higher than others.u did the right thing ,but remember their life is theirs to make ,whatever it is.. in fact u just did the same thing . made yourself a little better man..
goodluck brother.

[Tony Harrell]

You just added good karma to your reserves no matter what the cause of her disease.

[MOW ED]

Its compassion that you have but don't lose it. I have been a firefighter/paramedic for 17 years now and I have seen this time after time.
So she has cancer from smoking and she still smokes. I have seen this in other addictions also, namely true alcoholics. I talked to one before he died at 24 years old and he said that he wouldn't wish that disease on his worst enemy. Some people really have no control and it isn't their fault.

You know that you felt bad for the person without meeting them, regardless of the situation. Its compassion. Don't lose it.

We are really not here to judge others. Feel good in the fact that you helped someone out that needed help. You might have felt taken advantage of but if you did not cut it that day who would have?

[rkbrown]

Gabe:

Its people like you doing the kind of things that you did for this woman that make things just a little bit nicer in our world. Please keep it up.

[65hoss]

She's still dying. And looks like she has 2 useless son's. You did this for her not them. Who cares if they benefit from it.

[bobbygedd]

e few yrs ago, i had a call from a guy who was dying of cancer, while i was working, i heard him on the phone making funeral arangements, trying to get the best price as he had been sick for quite some time and was near broke. i felt so bad, i mowed for the rest of the season, and till his death the next spring, at no charge. the last thing he said to me was a message on my machine, "it is good to know there r still good people in this world, god bless u". if he had 5 brothers and 20 sons, i would still do it for free, with no regrets

[sgtgm5]

Thanks for your replies, I feel good about what i did. I woke this morning and got some juice, took a shower, paid some bills, and then it hit me. Everything i just did took little or now effort and then i thought about her laying in her bed and i had a tear roll down my face and i was glad that my family was safe and healthy,,, Thanks Gabe

[Bob Minney]

That feelings worth more than any $$$. Couldn't buy it if you wanted.

[Dennis E.]

You did a very nice thing. Does not matter about the son.
It'll come back to you.

[BAMARED]

And excellent replies from the others. Best thread I've read in a long time regarding motivation from inspiration and compassion. My hat's off to you, Gabe! All good deeds will be rewarded beyond mere money.

BAMARED

[scottb]

It is called paying it foward and you should feel good about your self. Good things will happen for you when you least expect.

[fastlane]

ya done good! I think most people would rather die happy. ie. smoke, drink, eat wrong foods ect. than live only a short time longer.

[sgtgm5]

welp, Good deeds do get noticed. It seems that someone called and wanted to hear my story from a local paper, hehe,,, im blushing

[NewbieOwner]

Call me out of line here... But there are an awful lot of us here...

What would you guys think of getting in touch with our local Cancer societys, and taking on 1-2 lawns a week each. To try to help out people in this kind of situation...

I could be wrong, but I think we might be able to get a tax write-off for our services... And it could turn into some good publicity...

Just a thought...

Andrew

[sgtgm5]

You suggesting that really touches me. It would be a great thing if we could form something uique out of our good deeds and help us out on the advertising side. If any in ct is interested please drop me a line. Gabe

[Brickman]

You guys have a good point about helping out. But I turn down SO MUCH paying work that I cannot afford to do work that doesn't pay.

If you have time, more power to you.

[Doc Pete]

The more you give unselfishly, the more you get in return. Someone up there does notice and your kindness will always be repaid.
Pete

[ce2000]

I have an account that I no longer charge for. He was laid off from his job last winter. He has MS and leukemia, but he still can get around with a walker or wheel chair. His speech is somewhat slurred. He is in his mid forties, married with two grown kids, one in the navy and one in college. I give him the same quality of work that he got when he was paying for it.

[sgtgm5]

Update, Well She called me back and wanted me to due her yard for the year so when i went to get paid she shorted me for 35. Go figuire, hehehe

[Runner]

That was probably 35 dollars out of her purse that was well needed.

- For her deadbeat sons to go buy dope with.:rolleyes: