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Old 05-11-2013, 09:46 AM
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when you run a business it is always wise to have everything set up so she doesnt ruin you.
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Old 05-11-2013, 12:59 PM
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Mark. It's because your wife is involved in your business. Now I'm far from being the perfect husband but I have noticed than landscape businesses that have the wives very involved have a very healthily marriage but the ones that are not involved normally do wind up in divorce.
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Old 05-11-2013, 01:24 PM
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Cole, this is such utter BS it isn't funny.

Success does not mean one has to work 24/7. Or 20/7.

And divorce is far from guaranteed just because one is a business owner.

Thinking this way is what leads to divorce, because obviously one is not committed to the marriage.

I couldn't run my business without my wife.
Now I never said any of that Mark. You are relating your experience and I am obviously relating mine. I never said anything was definite for everyone, just analyzing his situation. It has nothing to do with yours.

I never said success means working 24/7 for everyone but maybe it does for him and it doesn't for her. If it already doesn't work now it will not get better if you mix in a house and a few kids.

I also never said divorce is guaranteed for business owners. But the chances are much higher when you are already not happy before you get married.

Sacrificing your happiness is not a way to lead your life for either person in a relationship. We as business owners are typically very passionate about our work, that's what separates us from the employee type of person. For the majority of us it is literally our life, we eat breath sleep and **** it. Point being this makes us happy and if your significant other is forcing you to give up your happiness for hers that is not good.

Marriages are not built around sacrifice they are built around compromise, love, and understanding. Some people just do not work together no matter how hard they try.

Saying any marriage can work as long as you try IS such utter BS it isn't even funny. It is really scary to admit it to yourself when the time comes. Hopefully you never have to.

I am happy for you Mark, it sounds like you have a good woman. And any other of you guys that made it work. Some of us are not so lucky.
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Old 05-11-2013, 02:59 PM
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Lots of valid points here both sides. As Justin said, the mariages that have the wife involved seem to do better. I believe this is because the other half can see what's involved running/owning your own business. You can tell them till you're blue in the face, but until they can experience the deadlines or see that you just can't walk away at a certain hour when things still need to be done, they will never understand. Unfortunately, that makes us the "bad" guys.
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Old 05-11-2013, 06:59 PM
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I know my wife does not understand what is involved in my day. But it's part of owning a business
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Old 05-12-2013, 09:10 PM
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I wish I could get her involved, as her college degree is seeming a worthless waste of money. But I just can't get her to become involved. I tried this spring when she was jobless, but she got disappointed feeling, as she wasn't seeing the results because it was to early in the season. But now those efforts she helped me with this spring have helped me double my lawn routes, and I have too many landscape jobs to even see the end of the tunnel.

We have been together ten years now, and do have kids......so basically I'm already married. Today I was able to spoil her better than I've been able to before, and just kept reminding her it was because I've been doing 80 hour weeks.
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Old 05-13-2013, 10:08 AM
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Sub needed: I need a sub for 11 accounts.

2 in Eastpointe near 9 and Gratiot.

1 at Masonic and Gratiot.

1 at Common and Utica.

1 at 14 and Harper

1 at 16 and Crocker

3 at 22 and Heydereich

1 at 21 and Schoenherr

1 at Canal and Schoenherr.

All about 5 hours of work with 2 guys.
I'd prefer to sub this out to one reputable company.
Looking to get these started Monday May 20th.
Pm me if you're interested or more info. Thanks!
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Old 05-13-2013, 07:51 PM
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Looking for a 60in exmark walkbehind. needs to be hydro w ecs, prefer under 1000hrs, will consider up to 1500hrs...
Have the exact machine with a bull rider type sulky Was around 900 hours the last time I looked a few weeks back. Let me know.
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Old 05-13-2013, 09:45 PM
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Does anyone know of a supplier that carries Pennsylvania Blue flagstone that is not cut in squares in this area?
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Old 05-14-2013, 02:27 PM
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Did you try Turchi Cut Stone in Fraser? They had some a while back.
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