well i caught some grief on emails from other members who became insulted over my remark about putting a child in daycare. that was not meant to offend anyone, except of course vee dee. and even to him, things should not be taken personally, this is a forum, i don't know you people, and never will. to my question: when my wife became pregnant the first time, and the dna results came in , she quit her job. we thought this was important so she could be with our kids as a full time mother. this was possible, because i had marketable skills that allowed me to make a good living, and enough drive and ambition to have a part time business on the side to more than make up for her losing her income. for this i am greatful. given the choice, would you send your kids to daycare 8 hrs a day, or keep mom home with them?