BSDeality, No flames taken. Religion IS a cog in every town in America, this country was founded on freedom of religion. My point was not religion or "reality", it was that I would never marry somebody I could not trust with everything that I have and everything that I am. If you're to young or to blinded by love to realize the difference then you have no business getting married. I will look to my parents, my older married friends and my Pastor for advice on my choice for a wife before I ever let her know I'm thinking about marriage. Older and more experienced people have better insight to the true character of people. Edited to say, in my world love is more of a decision than a feeling. There have to be feelings and a physical attraction but it's more of a decision.